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Forgiveness Can Set You Free!

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The Forgiveness exercise can help you realize who or what you may need to forgive so that you can move forward in life free from emotional pain and sadness. This exercise will teach you ultimately to have a clearer conscious and subconscious mind.

Forgiveness can be the most powerful tool to release you from any emotional pain that you may have been carrying. Sometimes emotional wounds from the past hold us back and we can’t break free of the feeling of hurt or loss. Even though we may not always feel it, these feelings still lie dormant in our cell memory. Eventually, the universe gives us an opportunity where feelings resurface. When this happens we can choose to ignore them or face them. If we try to ignore them and continue to suppress them, hoping they will just go away, they will always come back. When this happens, we can allow them to come back again as problems, or we can look at them coming back as another chance for forgiveness. If we face them head on, look them in the eyes and tell the truth to ourselves, then we have more of a chance to remove at least the feeling associated with old emotions. After that, we can let go and finally be free of the pain.

There are several powerful ways to forgive yourself and others. It is only when you choose to do this, that you will truly be free and be more open to receiving the abundance that is waiting for you.

Preparation:  Have your journal to take notes.

One Minute Meditation: Take a moment to relax, take a few deep breaths and center yourself.

Begin the Session: Begin by thinking about someone or something that happened to you recently or in the past that made you angry, frustrated, or upset. This could also be something you did or didn’t do. Now read each question below. Take your time answering them and take notes.

  1. Who or what made you upset?
  2. How did it make you feel?
  3. How would you want them to change?
  4. What would you change about the situation?
  5. If you were able to change the situation, how would you feel now?
  6. What needed to be different in order for you to be happy?
  7. What is it that you would want to experience instead?

Now ask yourself

  • Did I deserve this?
  • Do I deserve to be free from this?
  • Can I forgive them?
  • Can I forgive myself?
  • Do I now have the power to release this?
  • Do I deserve to be happy and move beyond this?
  • What did I learn from this person or situation?


  • Was this person mirroring something back to me that I was doing to them or to others?
  • Have I ever treated someone the way they treated me?
  • Is this something I would like to change about myself?

New response

  • In the past, I reacted to this person or situation like this…
  • Now I will respond like this…

Focus the session: Choose to forgive. Complete the sentences below.

  • I choose to forgive them for…
  • I choose to forgive myself for…
  • I now allow myself to move on from this because…
  • I am now free from this because…

Now take a moment to be with this feeling of freedom. How do you feel now? What has changed?

Create an action plan: What action are you willing to take to change behavior and response in the future? Write it down.

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ANTS Transforming Automatic Negative Thoughts

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The ANTS exercise can help us see what negative thoughts we may have. These thoughts can stop us or block us from getting what we want. Transform the negative thoughts into positive thoughts.

Automatic negative thoughts (ANTS) are the thoughts a person might have right after a great idea. These thoughts can limit us and hold us back from taking action. For example: “I would like to get a better job, but I don’t have the education.” Or, “I would like to start my own business, and I have all of these great ideas, but I don’t have enough money.” Instead of focusing on how you are going to make it happen, focus on what you can do right now.

What we say is a direct response to what we are thinking. Our words are very important also. For example: “don’t forget” vs. “remember.” One might say, “I can’t forget to take out the trash.” What your subconscious mind is hearing is can’t and forget and trash. Studies show that we are more likely to remember something if we use positive words. Instead, we could say, “I need to remember to take out the trash.” Another example that I see all too often. Standing in line at the grocery store and the cashier says, “How are you?” Often I hear people respond with, “I’m not bad.” So in this way, they are responding with a negative thought. Instead, we could say, “I’m doing fine” or “I’m great.” Also, the original question was how you were not how you were not.

Our thoughts, feelings, and actions have a lot to do with what we attract into our lives and create what we experience. The average human has over 60,000 thoughts per day. Although we can’t possibly monitor all of them, we can at least be more conscious of them. Fortunately, we have the ability to change our thought pattern. This does not happen overnight, this is something that needs nurturing and will take time, but eventually, with effort and consistency, you can get there.

Preparation: Have your journal ready to take notes.

One Minute Meditation: Take a moment to relax, take a few deep breaths and center yourself.

Begin the Exercise: Draw a line down the center of the page. On the top left write, “ANTS,” and on the right side write, “POSITIVE THOUGHT.”

Begin by looking at the ANTS column. Note any and all negative thoughts you might have about yourself, a situation, a person, or anything.

Powerful questions:

What negative thoughts have you had recently?

What makes you think you can’t do that?

What are some negative thoughts that you may have about yourself?

What are some negative thoughts you have had about someone else recently?

What are some negative thoughts you have had about a situation recently?

Keep writing until you can’t think of anymore.

Focus and transform: Now transform them…

Look at the Positive Thought column and transform the negative thoughts into positive thoughts. Most times it is the opposite of the negative thought. How do these new thoughts make you feel?

For example, in the ANTS column, you may have written, “I have no energy.” The positive thought would be, “I have an abundant amount of energy.” If this seems unbelievable to you, you could write, “I want more energy, ” or, “I will find a way to start having more energy.”

Speaking in positive terms:

Now that you have the tools to consciously change your thoughts, are you willing to speak more in positive terms? Are you willing to speak more about what you do want not what you don’t want? Are you willing to speak more about what you can do, and less about what you can’t do?

Create an action plan: What action are you willing to take? How will you begin to remove the ANTS in your life? Write it down. Take action!

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New Certification Now Available! Become a Certified Professional Life Coach with our Online Training

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Learn how to empower yourself and others! Our Professional Life Coach training is completely online and based on the core principles of Life Coaching. During this training, you will learn a well balanced practice that will set you up to create your own successful business.


Life Coaching is the art of empowerment and will help a person find answers, solutions and direction from within themselves. Empowerment is the art of self-determination and acting on one’s own independent authority that will result in an accomplished state of self-responsibility and self-confidence.


This training is for those who are interested in learning more about how to help others through empowering them to take action based on their wants and needs. Learn these proven techniques to use in your current healing practice, or just to receive the knowledge and experience for your own personal growth.


  • Family
  • Career
  • Relationships
  • Spiritual Growth
  • Money and Finances
  • Time Management
  • Business Success


Having opted for this amazing Shamanic Life Coach course was one of the best decisions I have made. Rebekah is an extraordinary master instructor with the gift to reach deep into one’s soul and opening the portals of talents, gifts, abilities and belief in self. Not only has working with Rebekah provided much needed knowledge, moreover, it refreshed one’s personal teaching pattern with new insight and light. Throughout the course, Rebekah’s support was always present; I felt that even her well-deserved and welcomed critique was based in the belief of my talents and abilities. It is just an amazing emotion to now know and believe that I AM a Shamanic Life Coach. A most profound ‘A-ho’ to you Rebekah. Sincerely, Anke


We also offer a Shamanic Life coach Certification which includes many different facets of spiritual and holistic healing blanketed with North American Ancestral traditions. This course includes all aspects of the Professional Life Coaching curriculum. Learn more about the Shamanic Life Coach training certification.



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Do you have Healthy Boundaries? A Life Coaching Exercise within the Shamanic Life Coach Certification Course

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Personal boundaries are the limits and rules we set for ourselves within relationships. A person with healthy boundaries can say “no” to others when they want to, but they are also comfortable opening themselves up to intimacy and close relationships. A person who always keeps others at a distance (whether emotionally, physically, or otherwise) is said to have rigid boundaries. Alternatively, someone who tends to get too involved with others has poor boundaries. Also keep in mind that having poor boundaries is also a form of giving your power away.

Healthy Boundaries:

  • Values own opinions.
  • Doesn’t compromise values for others.
  • Shares personal information in an appropriate way (does not over or under share).
  • Knows personal wants and needs, and can communicate them.
  • Accepting when others say “no” to them.

Poor Boundaries:

  • Overshares personal information.
  • Difficulty saying “no” to the requests of others.
  • Over involved with other’s problems.
  • Dependent on the opinions of others.
  • Accepting of abuse or disrespect.
  • Fears rejection if they do not comply with others.

Rigid Boundaries:

  • Avoids intimacy and close relationships.
  • Unlikely to ask for help.
  • Has few close relationships.
  • Very protective of personal information.
  • May seem detached, even with romantic partners.
  • Keeps others at a distance to avoid the possibility of rejection.

Most people have a mix of different boundary types. For example, someone could have healthy boundaries at work, poor boundaries in romantic relationships, and a mix of all three types with their family. The appropriateness of boundaries depends on the setting. What’s appropriate to say when you’re out with friends might not be appropriate when you’re at work. Some cultures have very different expectations when it comes to boundaries. For example, in some cultures it’s considered wildly inappropriate to express emotions publicly. In other cultures, emotional expression is encouraged.

Preparation: Have your journal ready to take notes.

One Minute Meditation: Take a moment to relax, take a few deep breaths and center yourself.

Begin Exercise: Ask yourself the following questions…

Think about a person with whom you struggle to set healthy boundaries. This could mean that your boundaries are too rigid (you keep your distance), too poor (you open up too much), or there’s some other problem that isn’t so easily labeled. Who do you struggle to set healthy boundaries with?

Boundary Categories: What categories would you choose to describe your relationship with this person you listed above?

  • Physical Boundaries
  • Intellectual Boundaries
  • Emotional Boundaries
  • Sexual Boundaries
  • Material Boundaries
  • Time Boundaries

Take a moment to imagine what it will be like when you begin to establish healthy boundaries with this person.

  1. What are some specific actions you can take to improve your boundaries with this person?
  2. How do you think they will respond to these changes?
  3. How do you think your life will be different once you’ve established healthy boundaries with this person?

Focus: What was the most significant part about this session?

Create an action plan: What action are you willing to take? Write it down.


Shamanic Life Coach Training and Certification Now Available!

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Hey friends! Finally after many years and what seems like lifetimes of preparing this project for you, it is finally ready. CLICK HERE for all the details and please let me know if you have any questions. Looking forward to sharing this amazing this journey with you…

Sincerely, Rebekah J Simpson

Certified Life Coach and Earth Medicine Practitioner
Founder EMSHA Earth Medicine School of Healing Arts

Introduction to Life Coaching Sept 21st 2015

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Seminar - Flier Life Coach TrainingPresented by Sedona Coaching Company
Join us for a fun, educational and FREE event. Are you interested in learning more about Life Coaching, Becoming a Coach, refreshing your Life Coaching skills, adding Life Coaching techniques to your current therapy, or counseling practice, or to invest in your own personal growth?
Rebekah has been practicing and teaching Life Coaching since 2007. Her knowledge and experience in the field has inspired her to educate the world about Life Coaching. She will answer all your questions and share a powerful life coaching exercise during the event. It will be fun!
September 21st and October 19th 2015 6pm to 8pm
Sedona Creative Life Center in the Art Cabin. 333 Schnebly Hill Road Sedona, AZ 86336
Contact Rebekah J Simpson for more information 928.284.8267 or

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Life Coaching – The law of Giving and Receiving

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giving and receivingThe law of giving and receiving… Today, bring whoever you encounter a gift, a compliment or a flower. Gratefully receive gifts also. Keep wealth circulating by giving and receiving care, appreciation, and love…

Everything is constantly on the move in the universe. It’s the flow of energy and information. It’s the effortless movement of consciousness ultimately that results in the diversity of expression in the universe. “Currency, ” our word for money, derices from the latan word meaning to run or flow. Money is a symbol or constant, flowing exchange. If our intention is to hoard our money, we will stop its circulation back into our life. Instead, we have to keep energy and the free flow of ideas circulating in  the world. ~ Deepak Chopra

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Happy New Year! – from Life Coach Rebekah Simpson

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Here is my free gift to you…

What goals do you have for 2013? What did you want to accomplish last year and didn’t get to?
It’s never too late to start or finish.

Here is a powerful coaching tool that can help you get clear on your goals and create motivation to accomplish them.
Set about an hour aside of clear uninterrupted time. Clear your thoughts and center yourself…
1. Write what you would like to do, have, be, or accomplish in 2013. Keep writing until you run out of thoughts.
2. Narrow them down to your top three and prioritize them.
3. Separate each of your goals on their own piece of paper. Set a realistic date you would like to accomplish it by.
4. Start with your first goal; Write the details of this goal, then write down “why” you want to accomplish it. Now take a minute to visualize already having this goal and what it feels like.

Note that we didn’t look at “how” this is going to happen. We just focus on what we want and how it feels to already have it. Along the way, as you continue to take action, you will start to notice people, situations and new doors opening up to support you on this goal.
Be patient and don’t force the goal to happen. Instead, allow it to unfold spontaneously and watch each piece of the puzzle put itself in place as the bigger picture begins to appear.

Remind yourself often of your “why.” Why are you doing this? This is the fuel that keeps your flame of passion burning, and will illuminate your dreams and goals to manifest into your life. In order to fulfill a dream or a goal, we have to stretch out of our comfort zone. We have to be realistic, persistent, and consistent. Make sure to acknowledge how far you have come already, this expression of gratitude for yourself is a huge piece of this grand puzzle.

I would love to help you with this as your personal Life Coach. I will help you see your vision clearly, empower you to take action, and hold you accountable with no judgment. I will hold a space of compassion and love for you as you walk through this part of your journey in life. I believe in you. -Rebekah

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Life Coaching – Are you holding on to it?

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Does it bother you when someone cuts you off in traffic, says something to hurt your feelings, does not hold up to their word, or any other event of this type…


monk-carrying-womanTwo monks were on a journey when they came to
a river where a beautifully dressed woman was

As she did not want to ruin her lovely clothes, she
asked them to carry her to the other side. The two
monks glanced at one another because they had
taken vows not to touch a woman.

Then, without a word, the older monk picked up the
woman, carried her across the river, placed her
gently on the other side, and carried on his

The younger monk couldn’t believe what had just
happened. After rejoining his companion, he was
speechless, and an hour passed without a word
between them.

Two more hours passed, then three, finally the
younger monk could contain himself no longer,
and blurted out “How could you do that, when you
made a vow not to even touch a woman!”

The older monk looked at him and replied, “Oh, are
you still carrying her? I put her down hours ago.”

We are the only species on this planet with free will, lets use it to our advantage! Choose the life you want.

Is there something that you are holding onto that you would like to let go of but don’t know how? Call today.

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Free Life Coaching Seminar

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Coaches Connection Presents:

Free Life Coaching Seminar

Join in on the fun as we explore Life Coaching and experience a powerful coaching exercise! Learn how you can become a coach, hire a coach, or grow your existing coaching business.

 April 14th 3pm

 Jerona Cafe 677 E Mingus Ave. Cottonwood, AZ

Presenter: Rebekah Simpson 928-420-2077

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Is Life Coaching for you?

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“Revolve or Evolve? ” Sometimes life can be tough, and a person doesn’t know which direction to go. As a result, they keep revolving in circles and have difficulty moving forward. A Life Coach will help the client find clarity and motivate them to take action based on their wants and needs. By the end of a session, a client will be motivated and have a clear view on what steps to take to achieve his/her goals. With a follow-up session, the Life Coach will check-in with the client to see if they are following through with their action plan.

Life Coaching is about self-growth and taking your life to the next step. The client is always in control of the session; it really is all about them. Life Coaches may use several transformational tools to help their clients find clarity including Hypnotherapy, Guided Imagery, written exercises, affirmations, and role-playing. To help a person visualize the possibilities of what they really want, a life coach will bring them to a comfortable and relaxed state. This helps clear the mind of all emotions and drama from the day so the client can be receptive to the possibilities.

Life Coaching is not counseling. There may be some misconceptions as to what life coaching is. Life coaching does not “fix people”, tell a person what to do, judge them, make suggestions, or rescue someone from their current position. It’s all about helping someone move forward, knowing they have all the answers within themselves. A Life Coach will help validate those answers and encourage an action plan.

Automatic negative thoughts (ANTs) are the thoughts a person might have right after a great idea. These thoughts limit a person and hold them back from taking action. For example: “I would like to get a better job, but I don’t have the education.” Or, “I would like to start my own business, and I have all of these great ideas, but I don’t have enough money.” In stead of focusing on how a person is going to make it happen, a Life Coach will help the client focus on the end results, and the feelings of already experiencing their dream as a reality. That is when the first step becomes clear, and it all starts falling into place.

Mini Session:Have a pen and some paper ready and ask your self these questions: If I could do anything or be anything I want with no limits, no fear, and NO ANTs, what would it be? What would I do? Infinite possibilities are at your fingertips. Now close your eyes right where you are and imagine what it would look like and what would it feel like to have infinite abundance right now. Now journal your thoughts and keep writing until you feel you have fully expressed all of your dreams and wishes.

A Life Coach will connect with you from the heart and meet you where you are, and can help you find the answers you need for taking the first step in making your dream a reality. The outcome is life transforming. Find your coach today in the Coaches Connection Directory.

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Life Coaching – Messages

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life coaching and listeningLife is continuously providing us with messages and information. When we do not listen, then the messages become lessons. When we do not learn, the lessons become problems. When we do not address the problems, they become crises. When crises are left unresolved, they create chaos in our lives. Just imagine how life would be if we learn to live on the levels of messages and information.

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Life Coaching Training Tip~ Messages

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life coaching and listeningLife is continuously providing us with messages and information. When we do not listen, then the messages become lessons. When we do not learn, the lessons become problems. When we do not address the problems, they become crises. When crises are left unresolved, they create chaos in our lives. Just imagine how life would be if we learn to live on the levels of messages and information.

When working with your client on a particular problem they may be having, break this down into 4 sections:

1. Do you remember when you may have been getting gentle nudges about this. Maybe a feeling or a thought?

2. When did you recognize this as becoming a lesson learned or did you ignore it?

3. At what point did this become a problem?

4. And if they let it go this far ask them, what can they do now to to let go of the chaos they have allowed to happen in their life.

Create an action plan, follow through and follow up.

Expect Miracles,

Rebekah J Simpson

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“Meet Your Future Self” Life Coaching Guided Imagery

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Meet your Future-Self
Through Guided Imagery …with Certified Life Coach Rebekah Simpson

Relax, as you travel through time and space to meet your future self. Receive special wisdom and guidance to help you on your path in life. Also receive a special gift from your future self as a token to remember your experience. See where you will be living and find out how you got there. Bring a journal; you will want to remember this transformational experience! Group discussion afterward to share your aha moments and bring more clarity.

Wednesday, April 22nd, 2009 6 to 7 pm

Sedona Creative Life Center In the Art Cabin. 333 Schnebly Hill Rd Sedona, AZ $20. 928-420-2077.

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Life Coaching Tool 9 Day Mantra

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9 Day Mantra-Manifestation

After doing some in-depth research on instant manifestation, I created this program and used it for myself. Some experts say that it takes 21 days to change a habit, but through my research I have found that it can be done in less time. I am amazed at how it worked for me. I wasn’t  sure what to expect, but I wanted to do it for myself before I shared it with others. I was kinda hoping for lots of money or a brand new car, but after doing this process I realized that I needed to do some inner cleaning and clearing before the material abundance would come. What I manifested was exactly what I needed the most.

Sometimes we get so caught up in wanting more of what we don’t have instead of being happy with what we do have. Still, I continue to do this process daily and it seams I haven’t yet manifested the material things I want yet, but I have done much inner cleaning and completing of old projects that were long overdue.

What I have learned is that we will get exactly what we need right when we need it. There is a sequence of events and a divine process that we must experience and understand before we can allow material abundance. When we learn to open our hearts to love, appreciation and gratitude, we  will then step into the flow of material abundance that is awaiting us.

The “I Wants’: Make a list of everything you want to do, be, or have. Example: I want to live in Hawaii. I want a loving relationship. I want to be wealthy and have a lot of money. If you think of something else later, it’s okay to add it to the list at any time.

Releasing the “I Wants”: Release the “I wants.” Some people crumble up the paper and throw it away, some people burn it.. When we say, I want, what we are really saying is, I don’t have. If you are familiar with the law of attraction, then you know that the universe mirrors our thoughts and actions. What we think about, what we say, the feelings we have and the action we take is equal to what we will attract.

Transforming the “I wants”: On a completely new piece of paper, transform each item into words of already having it.

Example: I enjoy living in Hawaii. I have a loving relationship. I am wealthy and have a lot of money.

1-10 Scale: On a scale of 1-10, rate where you are right now with each item on the list, 1 meaning you are far from where you want to be, and 10 meaning you are where you want to be. Its always a good idea to measure your progress anytime you start something new.

Gratitude: End your mantra with a statement of gratitude. This is a very important part of this process because gratitude is a key factor in attracting more of what you want. Each day, make sure to take a moment and feel the gratitude for everything you already have.

Plan it: Schedule the nine days into your calendar. You will find that if you really want to do something or go somewhere, if you write it on your calendar, you will start scheduling other events around it. Set your intention and desire for what you want to get out of this exercise and let the universe handle the details.

The work: Read this mantra out loud to yourself every morning for 9 days. While doing this you may want to hold your gratitude stone in your hand.

Take a few minutes after reading this mantra to visualize yourself as already having, being, or doing that which you want. Remain in a place of gratitude throughout the day accepting people, places, circumstances, and events as they are.

*If you miss one day, you are encouraged to start the process over. It is important to do this for nine days consecutive to experience your desired outcome.

San Kalpa (sahn KAL-pah) is an ancient Sanskrit sutra that means “My intentions have infinite organizing power.” When you enter a meditative state and repeat this sutra, you strengthen the power of your intentions. Here is how to use it:

Spend a few minutes in meditation, allowing your mind to settle. Now imagine that the entire universe is a vast ocean of consciousness and that your intentions emerge from your heart and ripple out into this ocean, where they are fulfilled with effortless ease. Then say silently to yourself, “San Kalpa.”

For every intention, whether for healing, a new relationship, wealth, or opportunity, envision the desired outcome in your mind and repeat the sutra, letting it resonate deep within you.

Practice Non-Judgment: Release judging and evaluating people, places, circumstances, situations, and events. Everyone is just doing the best that they can with the past condition that the have had. They are not good, they are not bad, they just are. And what they are experiencing right now is perfect and in alignment with their life’s path. They are reacting to what they know. Everything that is happening right now is a result of what we have done in the past. Within every problem, there is an opportunity in disguise. Look for the positive in every moment.

Take the Right Action: Take action that supports, and is in alignment with your wants and desires. One of my favorite sayings is, “If you keep doing what you’ve always done, then you will keep getting what you’ve always got.” Another one of my favorite tools is, E+R=O event plus your response to the event equals the outcome. If you don’t like the outcome you are getting then you have to change your response to the event.

The Law of Least Effort-By Deepak Chopra

Nature’s intelligence functions with effortless ease…with care freeness, harmony, and love. And when we harness the forces of harmony, joy, and love, we create success and good fortune with effortless ease.
I will put the Law of Least Effort into effect by making a commitment to take the following steps:

1. I will practice acceptance. Today I will accept people, situations, circumstances, and events as they occur. I will know that this moment is as it should be, because the whole universe is as it should be. I will not struggle against the whole universe by struggling against this moment. My acceptance is total and complete. I accept things as they are this moment, not as I wish they were.

2. Having accepted things as they are, I will take responsibility for my situation and for all those events I see as problems. I know that taking responsibility means not blaming anyone or anything for my situation (and this includes myself.) I also know that every problem is an opportunity in disguise, and this alertness to opportunities allows me to take this moment and transform it into a greater benefit.

3. Today my awareness will remain established in Defenselessness. I will relinquish the need to defend my point of view. I will feel no need to defend my point of view. I will feel no need to convince or persuade others to accept my point of view. I will remain open to all points of view and not be rigidly attached to any one of them. – Deepak Chopra
“Your purpose is to grow to the point where “I am love” is at the surface of you consciousness, not buried in the dark depths.” -Deepak Chopra

Release Attachment: Release all attachment to your desired outcome. It’s okay if it doesn’t happen and it’s okay if it does happen. Remain open to new possibilities and look for opportunities throughout each day. Just know that whatever happens is in perfect alignment with your true purpose in life. If something that you really want doesn’t happen, then there is a reason for it, or it’s not the right time yet. Remember, the more you act like you don’t have something, the more you push it away.

Journal: Journal each day to record your progress. Describe your experiences and events with detail.

Review: On the tenth day review your notes, and reevaluate where you are now with each item using the 1-10 scale. Celebrate your success! Do something nice for yourself to show appreciation and gratitude.

After the 9th day, something in your awareness will have changed, and it’s usually what you need the most.

I would love to hear your feedback!

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Life Coaching Success Strategy – Take Responsibility for your life

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You cant change others but you can change yourself.

When we were young, many of us were taught to believe that we weren’t in control of our lives, and we were conditioned to just take what we were given and be happy with it. We were also taught to blame something outside of ourselves for things in our life that we are not happy with. We blame our parents, our friends, the media, the government, our clients, the weather, the economy, and most of all our spouses and partners. Somehow we never want to think that the real problem could start with ourselves. We make up excuses or complain, we have our victim stories, and reasons why we “can’t.” Have you ever noticed that people almost always complain to the wrong people, to people who can’t do anything about it. Why? Because it’s easier. It takes more effort and courage to tell your spouse that you are not happy at home, or tell your boss that you are not happy with the way they pile too much work on you. But who do we unload on?

We either create or allow what happens to us. And to start creating the dream life we want, we have to take 100% responsibility and give up all blaming, justification, and excuses forever. It may have served us in the past, and sometimes we got what we wanted, but it didn’t last long. And here we are wondering why we still haven’t been able to have the life we want.

Let’s look at what our beliefs are…

If we believe we that we are always sick, then we will always be sick. If we believe that the pain in our body will only get worse, then we will remain in pain for the rest of our lives. If we believe that we have allergies because it runs in the family, then we will continue to have allergies. Our beliefs create our outcome. We choose to accept the sickness, the pain, and the allergies as, “that’s just the way it is.”
What if we could begin to believe that we can be well, even after years of being sick. What if we can become pain free, what if it is possible? What if, after having allergies all our lives, we can become allergy free. What if we could do all of this with no medications? What if we could simply change our beliefs and get the outcome we want. What if it is really that simple? Yes, it is that simple. The hard part (and this may just be a belief of mine) is that when we have been conditioned for so long to believe something, it takes time and consistency to change the belief to get the new results. Even while we are in pain, suffering from allergies, struggling with finances, we can start to trick the subconscious mind into thinking we are well, and have financial freedom. After a while we will start to see a change in our experience that is in alignment with our new beliefs. Some experts say that it takes 21 days to change a habit, I have found that it can happen in less time.

Another tool we can use to help change our beliefs, is to change the way we respond to certain events. E + R = O (Event + Response = Outcome) The basic idea of this tool is that every outcome we have experienced in life has been a result of how we have respond to the event in the past. You may have herd the saying, “If you keep doing what you’ve always done, then you’ll keep getting what you’ve always got.” It is very true, we have to change the way we respond to things in order to get the desired outcome. Everything that we experience today, is a result of the choices we have made in the past.

Action Plan:

1. What is something that you are experiencing in your life that you are not happy with?

2. How have you responded to this in the past?

3. What is your old belief?

4. What is your new belief?

5.  How could you respond differently?

6. What do you want your new outcome to be?

Rebekahs Journal

What is a Life Coach and Life Coaching?

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Coaching is an exciting new profession that can provide many opportunities to help people discover and achieve their dreams. People need support to survive and thrive in the game of life. Life Coaches support and encourage, without passing judgment or holding anything back.

A Life coach can:
* Empower an executive to become an inspiring leader.
* Assist an entrepreneur to build a profitable business.
* Challenge individuals to accomplish goals and dreams at an accelerated pace.
* Facilitate a person’s ability to find a spiritual perspective in their everyday life.
Coaching is the act of empowerment – – expanding people’s awareness through powerful questioning technologies and leveraging their gifts and talents MUCH faster than they could do alone.
The coaching process addresses specific personal projects, business successes, general conditions and transitions in the client’s personal life, relationships or profession by examining what is going on right now, discovering what obstacles or challenges there might be, and choosing a course of action to make your life be what you want it to be.
A Life Coach knows the client has all the answers to every question or challenge deep within them, even if those answers appear to be obscured, concealed or hidden inside. The coaches’ job is to ask the right questions and use right tools and techniques to empower the client to find the answers within themselves.
Life Coaching is a new and rapidly growing profession that is profoundly different from consulting, mentoring, advice, therapy, or counseling.
Life Coaching teaches you to connect your head and your heart in a way that transforms your passion for your dreams into action for your life. Coaching is like having a personal trainer for your life!!
If you are ready to take action and move forward in your life, call me today to schedule a transformational life coaching session. 928-420-2077